14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 1

Today is Valentine’s Day. If you’re like many people, you’ve got romantic plans for the day or the evening. If you do have plans, kudos to you for taking time for each other – for putting everything else aside and focusing on your relationship.


When subscribers fill out our New Subscriber Survey, the number one response we get to the question, “What’s one thing that you would like to improve in the next 6 months?” is “Our connection.” There is no better way to build a connection than to spend time together. This Valentine’s Day we want to encourage you to do something a little different.

Instead of spending Valentine’s Day working on your connection and then returning to life as normal, we want to challenge you to spend the next 14 days working on your connection. Intentionally work on connecting with your spouse over the next 14 days. Join us for “14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse”. Are you up for it? Is it worth it to you?

To help you along, starting tonight, we will send you an email every evening at 7:00pm EST (if you are a subscriber) with a challenge to complete with your spouse the next day. If you’re not up for the challenge we send you, that’s ok. Come up with one you’re interested in.

It doesn’t have to be long and complicated – keep it simple. It only has to be the two of you doing something together, without distraction, for at least 15 minutes. The goal isn’t to complete every challenge. The goal is to work on building a connection with your spouse.

Without further adieu, here’s your first challenge:

Day 1 – Valentine’s Day

First, show your spouse this message and both of you commit to completing the 14 days together. Again, you don’t have to complete the challenge we send. We’re only sending them to help you with ideas and as a reminder. Commit to doing something with your spouse every day that will build your connection.

Second, if you already have plans for Valentine’s Day, follow through with them. If you don’t have plans, plan something. It doesn’t have to be big and fancy. Make it simple and easy to complete. Go for a walk together, go get a coffee together, discuss a few of the 50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse. Make a plan to spend at least 15 undistracted minutes together.

For The Overachievers

This is the only challenge that will be individual. Grab a pen and paper and take 5 minutes to take stock in your marriage. Write a few sentences about how things are right now. Then answer these three questions:

  1. On a scale of 1-10 what is your “connection” level with your spouse today?
  2. On a scale of 1-10 how good are you doing at loving your spouse?
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how good is your spouse doing at loving you?

Be honest. You’re the only one that will see this. Then take a look at it again in 14 days and see what’s different.

Are you in? Awesome! Make sure you let us know. Tell us about your day or share a picture on the IR Facebook Page with the hastag – #14DaysOfConnecting.

You can tweet with that hashtag too!

And if you’re in a gracious mood and would like to help us out, share this post on your favorite social media channel and tag a friend you think might like this. (We can only get to about 1% of people that like our Facebook page. You can get to all of your friends!)

If you’re not on Facebook, will you forward this message to a friend you think might like this? (Remember how much we did that before the Facebook days !?!)

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