How long have you been married or in your relationship? 2 months? 10 years? 30 years? No matter the time, we can all stand to step back and evaluate what we are doing and how we are doing it within our own relationships. How much will it help when we intentionally go out of our way to do special things for each other?
Troy and I hold to the same order of priorities: God, ourselves, each other, our kids, others. We believe you have to be good with yourself before you can be good with each other, and good with others.
This past weekend, “life” happened. Isn’t that what it’s called when it’s something that you’d really rather not have happen or really rather not deal with? Well, life happened to our daughter in the form of a very lengthy emergency room visit. It was scary and painful for her. It was heartbreaking and tear-making for us. The ending is good and we are thankful for that.
At 2am Sunday morning, after we were finally home and our kids were in bed, Troy said to me, “I’m sorry I wasn’t really there for you tonight.” It caught me off guard. I responded with “Tonight was not about me.”
Interestingly enough, last week was Week 1 of our August Relationship Challenge, where we were working on doing things for each other. The highlight for me was Friday night, going together to my favorite restaurant and inhaling my favorite dessert.
Of course on Saturday, the hospital visit and the care of our daughter took priority over each other – no question. But Troy’s 2am comment made me realize that as important as her care and well-being are, his concern still came back to me and how I was managing within the situation.
How often do you account for your spouse’s feelings? How often do you step back and evaluate how you respond to your spouse in a tricky situation? How often are you communicating with him/her?
We love the responses we received and the excitement generated from the launch of the Week 1 August Relationship Challenges. In case you missed them, you can check out the launch here. And in case you missed it, be sure to check out our post about “50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse”. You can find that here – and you will use it during Week 2.
Are you ready for Week 2? Please keep us posted on how you are doing!