What’s the purpose of a challenge? Really…have you thought about why we push ourselves to do something that is out-of-the-ordinary or why we jump outside of the zone otherwise known as “comfort”?
There’s one main reason: To be better today than we were yesterday.
We all have issues in our relationships, but for most of us, doing things to make our relationships better is satisfying and rewarding. It enriches and enhances our lives. It takes effort and sometimes risk, but both of those are worth the reward of being better together.
There are just some days where I feel like I’ve given all I can give – everywhere – and there just isn’t much left to give to my marriage. Last week was one of those weeks. It was just hard. There were a lot of things that just didn’t go the way that I would have had them go: broken bones, illness, homeowner issues, business blow-ups, and even deaths. Come Friday, I was spent.
I lean on the foundation built by my faith, first and foremost. Secondly, I’m thankful that I have a husband who endures all of these things with me and who understands that sometimes things just get all twisted up. It’s in those times, that the idea of a challenge, while at first seems unreasonable, actually ends up being beneficial.
And so, I was right there with you in the trenches of the IR Relationship Challenges. And it was good.
Week 3 presents some new and interesting challenges. Does your spouse love to be touched? Bathe him or her. (Honestly, at the moment, this seems like one of my least favorite challenges as I am back on “bath duty” after many years of being retired. Accolades go to my daughter for her “front-flip-gone-wrong-resulting-in-two-broken-bones” incident. But hey, I’m always down for a challenge, so if that’s what it is, I’m in.)
When was the last time you, alone, planned something special just for the two of you? Do it! This is a great way to show her (or him) that you love your time together.
Be intentional this week. Make an effort to improve your relationship. Work through these challenges. Share with us what and how you’re doing. We really do want to know.
And if you’re interested and if by chance you missed the first two weeks, you can find them here, along with 50 really great conversation starters:
- August Relationship Challenges – Week 1
- August Relationship Challenges – Week 2
- August Relationship Challenges – Week 4
- 50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse
Look forward and work hard to be…Better Today than Yesterday; Better Tomorrow than Today.