Do you want to build a strong connection in your marriage and keep your kids the number one priority?
I’m sorry to break it to you. You can’t.
The only way to build a stronger connection in your marriage is to make your marriage the number one priority. More important than anyone else (other than God and yourself). The key point to understand is that for your marriage to thrive a connection has to be built. It takes effort. Your marriage can’t be placed to the side until the children are grown and have left the house.
I understand that you want to be there for your children. You want to give them more than you ever had. But one of the biggest gifts you can give your children is to show them what a good marriage looks like.
You want your children to grow up and have a great marriage right? Guess where they learn what a great marriage looks like? They see your marriage every day. They either see you making it a priority and working on it or they see you ignoring it and making other things a priority.
I would never encourage you to neglect your children, but sometimes it is good for them to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them. When you make your marriage the priority, they see that there is something more important.
They see that mom and dad are focused on each other.
- When they get out of bed in the morning and see the two of you sitting at the table, focused on each other, and talking, they see two people working on their marriage.
- When they see you leave them every Friday night for your date night, they see what a good marriage looks like.
- When you tell them they’ll have to wait because your are talking to mom/dad, they see you making your spouse a priority.
- When they see the two of you alone, in the distance, away from them, they see what will happen in the future.
Someday, they will grow up. They will find someone of their own. And they will leave the house. And if you’ve taught them what a good marriage looks like, you’ll see them happy. You’ll see them building a strong connection with their spouse.
You’ll see them doing the same things you did.