When You’ve Worn Thin, Then What?

When you’ve worn thin, your world looks different. You don’t see things as clearly. You feel helpless, frustrated and sad. You look around and (though it’s not necessarily true) everyone else is happy. You’re not.

I noticed when talking with my close group of friends that all of us are struggling with something. One friend is questioning her relationship with her husband, another is on the brink of divorce, one is struggling so hard financially, and another is frightened and waiting on the results of a medical procedure. I also work one-on-one with a wife whose husband is fighting an addiction to porn. The attacks come in different areas of our lives.

1 Way to Create a Smooth Morning

Breakfast at our house needs to be two things: fast and healthy. I realize that donuts and toaster pastries are fast, but that’s not the kind of food I want to bank on getting me, Troy or our kids through until lunch.

I experiment with different combinations of smoothies just about daily. But no matter how many I find that are so good, I keep coming back to my old standby. I get asked about this smoothie recipe a lot. I call it the “Chocolate Dream” – and it’s loaded with the kind of food that will help jumpstart anyone’s day.

Low in fat and even lower in cholesterol, spinach is high in niacin and zinc, as well as protein, fiber, vitamins A, C, E and K, thiamin, vitamin B6, folate, calcium, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, copper, and manganese. Spinach is loaded with good things for just about every part of your body.

It protects your body from free radicals, particularly in the colon. It’s good for your healthy cardiovascular system, and helps lower high blood pressure. Studies also have shown that spinach helps maintain your vigorous brain function, memory and mental clarity.

Avocados are known for helping to fight cardiovascular disease, aid in weight management, diabetes, and have an ability to enhance your body’s absorption of nutrients. They’re also anti-inflammatory and can help protect against liver damage.

A Smooth Move
You can’t go wrong when you fuel your body with these foods and nutrients first thing in the morning. An added bonus is that a smoothie is a gentle wake-up for your digestive system, too.

You know your morning routine? It’s the same thing over and over, right? Switch it up. Try adding this into your routine. Little changes like this make a big difference in your body.  Be intentional about your choices and work toward being #bettertodaythanyesterday .

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – The Complete List

The 14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse challenges are complete, but we wanted to follow up with one more post to summarize everything. If you missed a challenge or if you want to go back to a previous challenge, links to the complete list of challenges are below.


The strongest marriages are the ones where the connection is the strongest. So, we put these challenges together to give you some ideas for working on your connection.

  • If you want to create a better marriage, work on your connection.
  • If you have relationship problems, work on your connection.
  • If you want better communication in your marriage, work on your connection.

We hope these 14 days have been helpful to you, and we hope you’re connection has greatly improved. As a matter of fact, do you remember the “For The Overachievers” section of Day 1? If you completed that, you wrote down a few sentences about how your marriage was doing at the time and you answered these questions:

  1. On a scale of 1-10, what is your “connection” level with your spouse today?
  2. On a scale of 1-10, how good are you doing at loving your spouse?
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how good is your spouse doing at loving you?

If you completed that part of the challenge, answer these again and compare them to your answers 14 days ago. Let us know how you did!

If you got something out of these challenges and would like to show your appreciation, would you be willing to help us out?

We’re always interested in knowing how we’re doing and how we can improve. Will you take less than 5 minutes and take this survey? It’s anonymous and it will really help us out. If you fill it out, you’ll get a link at the end of the survey for a printable summary of all of the challenges. (Hurry! Only the first 100 people will be able to fill out the survey.)

Thank you again for participating, and we sincerely hope you will continue to work on building a stronger connection between you and your spouse.

To make things easy to find, here’s a list of all of the challenges:

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 5

Building a connection with your spouse takes effort – a lot of effort. But that doesn’t mean it needs to be complicated or difficult. Nothing we’ve suggested and none of the ideas we will suggest are complicated. They just take a little time and some effort.

Power Touch

Your challenge for tomorrow is no different. As a matter of fact, your challenge for tomorrow is so simple I think the tendency will be to brush it off and not do it because you think it’s trivial. So, let me start by giving you some reasons why you should complete the challenge even though it’s simple.

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 3

Tomorrow is day 3 the of “14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse”. The weekend will be over, so things will be harder. But that’s part of what this is all about – fighting for your marriage instead of pushing it to the side.

chicken vegetable quinoa stirfry

We can come up with a million excuses for why we can’t make time for each other, for why we’re just too busy. But don’t use the excuses. If you use the excuses, tomorrow’s challenge will be hard. But if you make an excuse to get it done, if you make it more important than the other “stuff”, it will be easy.

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 4

We hope you enjoyed your meal and your time together tonight! And hopefully the only fighting going on was in the form of a food fight!

Couples Exercise

Tomorrow is day 4 of “14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse” and we’re going to get you a little out of your comfort zone – maybe. Remember, don’t accept the excuses why you can’t get this done. Make an excuse to get it done.

Simple Little Recipe of the Day

I love spaghetti squash. It’s so good for you, too.
So when one of my best friends sent me this recipe, I knew I’d have to try it. A healthier version of alfredo? Sign me up.
I modified it to include vegetables. Because we all need to eat more vegetables. Give this a shot. It’s worth it.

Every Smile is a Direct Achievement

A smile can make all the difference in someone’s day. And my hope is that my smile made a little bit of a difference to the man in the parking lot who scowled at me as I drove by.

Romans 12:18 “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”

Will you show your love to others – your husband, wife, kids, co-workers, friends, those you encounter on the street – with a smile? It might just be exactly what they need.

(In the cup: Yogi brand tea in Vanilla Spice, a splash of coconut milk and a bit of stevia.)

The Only Thing To Compare Yourself To

“They have such a great marriage.” “I wish I had a husband like that.” “I wish I had everything together like she does.” “I wish I could be successful like him.”

Have you ever found yourself saying something like those statements above? If you’re like everyone else on this planet, I’ll bet, at one time or another, you have. I know I have. Who am I kidding. I know I do.

Simple Little Recipe of the Day – Turkey Velvet Soup

You have it too. Don’t you? Gobs of leftover turkey from cooking that bird last week… I cooked a 20-lb turkey – a farm-raised, free-range, organic roasting pan of goodness. And then came the leftovers.

So after talking with a friend last week, I decided to take her recipe and put my own spin on a homemade, good-for-you, easy-to-make soup using only ingredients that I had on hand – and you should too.

Post-Thanksgiving Turkey Velvet Soup
– 1 stick of butter
– 1 onion, chopped
– 1 bag frozen carrots
– 1 bag frozen kale (or other green vegetable)
Sautè together. Then add in:
– 1 can cream of mushroom soup
– 2 1/2 quarts chicken stock
– 1 cup flour (gluten-free works well too)
– lots of leftover turkey
– salt and pepper to taste
Bring to a boil for 5 minutes, then simmer until thick.

Be creative! If you have other vegetables you need to use, chop them and toss them in. Be liberal. Be healthy.