The self-improvement landscape is littered with advice about practicing gratitude. Everyone that talks about self-improvement talks about the need for gratitude, and they should because there are huge benefits.
According to this article, research proves that some of the benefits of gratitude are:
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. was a 19th century American physician, poet, professor, lecturer, and author based in Boston.
In one of his writings, he said, “We do not quit playing because we grow old, we grow old because we quit playing.”
If you’ve ever been to Disney World, you know that the tagline for Disney Parks, “The Place Where Dreams Come True”, really is true. It doesn’t matter if you are a small child or 100 years old, you can’t help but smile when you walk into Disney.
Walt Disney’s character has been described in many ways, but above all, he was a dreamer. Walt Disney left us a place where we could let our dreams and imagination run wild. Just a small portion of that is caught in some of the quotes he left us too.
Think back to when you and your spouse were dating. Do you remember the feelings you had, the butterflies in your stomach, how much you wanted to be together?
Those feelings don’t last too long into most marriages. Work, kids, and life in general take over. The marriage tends to get pushed down the priority list. Unfortunately for many, that’s the beginning of the end of the marriage.
If you’ve been keeping up with the 14 Days of Connecting challenges, tomorrow is Saturday. The weekend is here and you’ve officially made it halfway through the challenges. Woot! Woot!
Since it’s the weekend, we’re going to challenge you to get out of the house together.
It’s no surprise that eating together brings us closer together. Every culture in the world comes together to eat. Coming together around the table for a meal brings joy, sharing, conversation, and connection.
Day 8 Challenge – Go Out to Eat Together
Your challenge for Day 8 is to go out to eat together – alone. It can be breakfast, lunch, or dinner. Set aside a time to eat together, be alone together, enjoy each other’s company, and connect.
It doesn’t have to be big and fancy. It’s about being together. Remember, no excuses. No excuses about money, kids, schedules, etc… Make it happen. Your marriage will thank you.
For The Overachievers
Make it big and fancy. Turn it into a full on date night. Pick something to do together before or after dinner:
- A movie
- Ice skating
- A museum
- A show
- The arcade
Find something you like doing together or try something completely new. Just be together and enjoy each other’s company.
It may have been a while because of our email-based world, but do you remember how you feel when you get something in the mail – not the junk mail, but something from a friend?
You’re excited. You’re intrigued. You’re wondering what’s inside. Studies have shown we get a small endorphin rush when we receive an email or get a notification on our phones. The endorphin rush has to be even bigger for a tangible piece of mail.
When you think of your home what comes into your mind? Is it chaos, clutter, turbulent? Or is it calm, organized, peaceful?
Our homes should be a place of comfort and refuge, a place where we know we can always find peace and relaxation. One way we can work to insure that is to keep our homes clean. I’m not talking white glove inspection clean. I’m talking about a clean where we are comfortable, where we enjoy the space, clean where company can arrive unexpectedly and we aren’t scrambling to toss things under the rug.
Building a connection with your spouse takes effort – a lot of effort. But that doesn’t mean it needs to be complicated or difficult. Nothing we’ve suggested and none of the ideas we will suggest are complicated. They just take a little time and some effort.
Your challenge for tomorrow is no different. As a matter of fact, your challenge for tomorrow is so simple I think the tendency will be to brush it off and not do it because you think it’s trivial. So, let me start by giving you some reasons why you should complete the challenge even though it’s simple.
You’ve already received the challenge for Day 4, but because of our mistake in sending it a day early, we are sending this is as a Day 4 “Bonus Challenge”. This challenge should be pretty easy to complete from a time and energy standpoint, but it may be a bit difficult because it’s going to force you to critically think about yourself and your relationship.
The entire goal of #14DaysOfConnecting is to help you to increase your connection with your spouse. Or, to put it another way, to build unity between you and your spouse. One way that happens is through the conversations you have with your spouse.
Tomorrow is day 3 the of “14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse”. The weekend will be over, so things will be harder. But that’s part of what this is all about – fighting for your marriage instead of pushing it to the side.
We can come up with a million excuses for why we can’t make time for each other, for why we’re just too busy. But don’t use the excuses. If you use the excuses, tomorrow’s challenge will be hard. But if you make an excuse to get it done, if you make it more important than the other “stuff”, it will be easy.