I absolutely love sailing. There is nothing like turning the engine off, hearing the sound of the wind in the sails, and being out where you can’t see the shore. It’s an experience that can’t be explained.
But close your eyes and imagine yourself out there. Alone. Imagine that it’s just you sitting on the boat in the middle of the sea. There is no one around. It’s just you. You’re not afraid. You know for certain that you’ll be ok.
Now imagine that you’ve been completely stripped of your roles. You’re not a husband, wife, father, mother, employee, employer, etc. You no longer have any roles. It’s just you.
On a scale of 1-10, and with all of your roles gone, what is your opinion of yourself? Be honest. (No one will know your answer.) What do you think of yourself without your roles?
Before you read any further, answer that question. Be honest with yourself.
Once you answer, click the button below to see the results from the first 100 people that answered that question.
The correct answer to the question is 10, but most people don’t get it right. The reason you don’t think you are a 10 is because you define yourself by your roles in life. It’s easy to let that happen because so much in life is tied to those roles.
When you define yourself by your roles, what happens when you fail in your roles? You start thinking less of yourself, but in reality your value hasn’t changed. You’re still a 10.
You realize that you’re a 10, right? No matter what you answered, you are a 10. The reason you’re a 10 is because you’re you! You are unique and special in a way that no one else can ever be.
Your identity is a 10. God created you. How can you not be a 10? When you fail in your role, it means you messed up in that specific area, but it doesn’t mean you’re less as a person.
It is a difficult task, but train yourself to not get caught up in defining yourself by the roles you play in life. Define yourself by understanding that you’re a 10.