Have you ever wondered why some people are so talented? What is it that gave them their extreme abilities? Were they just born with lucky genes?
Genes do play a part in it, but for the most part, luck has nothing to do with it. It turns out, talent, whether you’re talking about writing, playing the piano, or hitting a golf ball, is the result of one thing. Effort. Not just normal, every day effort. Extreme effort.
Selfie sticks are all the rage right now. The awesome gadget allows you to attach your phone to a telescopic tube. When you extend the tube your phone will be several feet away from you, and it will completely remove your forearm from all of your selfies. What an novel idea!
In full disclosure, Taryn and I own a selfie stick, but we aren’t fans because using a selfie stick isn’t worth the things you give up by not using a selfie stick. Here’s a short list that compares the contrast between using a selfie stick and not using a selfie stick:
Today is Sept. 11th.
We all remember what happened this day in 2001, even those that live outside of the United States. The world changed that day.
I offer a challenge to you today. It is simple, but two-fold.
Accountability partners and accountability groups seem to be pretty popular these days. You decide that you want to commit to changing something about yourself. Maybe you want to exercise every day. You know it will be hard to keep your commitment, so you ask someone to help you and coach you to keep that commitment.
My wife, Taryn, and I have been a part of these types of groups. They sound noble on the surface, but, speaking from experience, here’s why I think accountability partners don’t work.
I’m not that different from Josh Duggar.
I’m married. I have a family. I believe in God, practice my faith and share it – just like him. Friends and family have supported me in my beliefs, decisions and life choices. They have also criticized me for them – just like him.
Mindset is an interesting phenomenon. There are countless articles and bits of research that discuss the relationship between how we view ourselves, the opportunities around us, our potential and the quality of our thoughts, psychology, and ultimately our lives as a whole.
A Professor of Psychology at Stanford, Carol Dweck, in her book “Mindset”, said,
“For twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you commit to and accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?”
It started as a casual conversation a few years ago between my husband, Troy, and me. How do you best celebrate a milestone birthday? For me, I knew I wanted to travel. “Let’s go to Paris!” I said, almost as a joke.
Troy didn’t take it as a joke. So, off and on for those few years, we would briefly bring it up and dream about how it would be.
Part of the human condition is the internal battle between good and evil. Most people truly desire to be good, to have no evil within them, but most people (dare I say all) don’t always win the battle. Though we strive to be good, sometimes evil wins the battle.
The Apostle Paul admitted that he struggled with this battle in Romans 7: 15-24. If the Apostle Paul struggled with the internal battle, what makes us think we won’t struggle with it? And, more to the point, how do we win the battle within?
When you’ve worn thin, your world looks different. You don’t see things as clearly. You feel helpless, frustrated and sad. You look around and (though it’s not necessarily true) everyone else is happy. You’re not.
I noticed when talking with my close group of friends that all of us are struggling with something. One friend is questioning her relationship with her husband, another is on the brink of divorce, one is struggling so hard financially, and another is frightened and waiting on the results of a medical procedure. I also work one-on-one with a wife whose husband is fighting an addiction to porn. The attacks come in different areas of our lives.
To clean or not to clean. Ah. That is the issue that appears on Facebook in the form of memes and quotes almost daily, posted by moms across the world. Do I clean or do I spend time with my kids?
I spend time with my kids every day. I also clean my house every day. I actually don’t mind cleaning. On some days, I would go as far as to say that I actually enjoy it. “How can she do that?” you may ask.