The 14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse challenges are complete, but we wanted to follow up with one more post to summarize everything. If you missed a challenge or if you want to go back to a previous challenge, links to the complete list of challenges are below.
The strongest marriages are the ones where the connection is the strongest. So, we put these challenges together to give you some ideas for working on your connection.
- If you want to create a better marriage, work on your connection.
- If you have relationship problems, work on your connection.
- If you want better communication in your marriage, work on your connection.
We hope these 14 days have been helpful to you, and we hope you’re connection has greatly improved. As a matter of fact, do you remember the “For The Overachievers” section of Day 1? If you completed that, you wrote down a few sentences about how your marriage was doing at the time and you answered these questions:
- On a scale of 1-10, what is your “connection” level with your spouse today?
- On a scale of 1-10, how good are you doing at loving your spouse?
- On a scale of 1-10, how good is your spouse doing at loving you?
If you completed that part of the challenge, answer these again and compare them to your answers 14 days ago. Let us know how you did!
If you got something out of these challenges and would like to show your appreciation, would you be willing to help us out?
We’re always interested in knowing how we’re doing and how we can improve. Will you take less than 5 minutes and take this survey? It’s anonymous and it will really help us out. If you fill it out, you’ll get a link at the end of the survey for a printable summary of all of the challenges. (Hurry! Only the first 100 people will be able to fill out the survey.)
Thank you again for participating, and we sincerely hope you will continue to work on building a stronger connection between you and your spouse.
To make things easy to find, here’s a list of all of the challenges:
The self-improvement landscape is littered with advice about practicing gratitude. Everyone that talks about self-improvement talks about the need for gratitude, and they should because there are huge benefits.
According to this article, research proves that some of the benefits of gratitude are:
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. was a 19th century American physician, poet, professor, lecturer, and author based in Boston.
In one of his writings, he said, “We do not quit playing because we grow old, we grow old because we quit playing.”
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-3 NKJV)
But your default is to judge isn’t it?
Most of the time, I use the word “hate” loosely, but in this case, it’s intentional. I hate the news.
Disclaimer: If this hits home with you, please don’t take it as a criticism of you. It is a criticism of the news outlets and a plea for you to consider what you’re letting in your mind.
Before you can do anything significant in life, you have to find your purpose – at least that’s what the “experts” would lead us to believe. They say once you find or define your purpose, you can start framing your life around that purpose.
That thought process leaves us confused and wondering how to go about figuring out what our purpose in life is. Worse yet, it implies that we might as well forget doing anything until we find our purpose. It implies we can’t have a positive impact on the world until we find our purpose and that a true purpose in life doesn’t start until we find our purpose.
You may think you give your very best in everything you do, but what you think your very best is, is often much different (and significantly less) than what you are actually capable of.
Watch this inspirational and motivational clip from the movie “Facing The Giants” to prove that. Warning: Be prepared to get chill bumps and possibly for some tears.
Wouldn’t it be great to have that coach screaming in your ear as you go through life? Do you realize that is possible? You only need to reprogram that “voice” in your head to give your very best instead of what you think is your very best.
A smile can make all the difference in someone’s day. And my hope is that my smile made a little bit of a difference to the man in the parking lot who scowled at me as I drove by.
Romans 12:18 “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
Will you show your love to others – your husband, wife, kids, co-workers, friends, those you encounter on the street – with a smile? It might just be exactly what they need.
(In the cup: Yogi brand tea in Vanilla Spice, a splash of coconut milk and a bit of stevia.)
Your energy and intention are directly connected. When you make up your mind and set your intention in a direction, your energy will automatically flow that way.
Create your day. Plan it intentionally.
“They have such a great marriage.” “I wish I had a husband like that.” “I wish I had everything together like she does.” “I wish I could be successful like him.”
Have you ever found yourself saying something like those statements above? If you’re like everyone else on this planet, I’ll bet, at one time or another, you have. I know I have. Who am I kidding. I know I do.