How to Handle Criticism

Why do we get so upset when people criticize us? Because it hurts? Because it makes us feel small? Because it makes us feel unworthy?

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I could go on and on, but when you’re on the receiving end of criticism, it never feels good does it? When we are criticized, we usually become emotional: upset, angry, defensive, etc…

The Real Truth of Give and Take

It’s often been said that a relationship is all about give and take. That may be true, but do you ever find yourself spending much more time on the taking side that the giving side?

God designed us to be able to take care of ourselves. Focusing on ourselves and our needs is necessary for survival. But it doesn’t take much before we cross the line and get so absorbed with ourselves that we forget about other people and their needs.

You Can’t Figure Out How Before Deciding To Do Something

There’s something you’ve always wanted to do in life, but you still haven’t gotten it done. You have a change you want to make in your life, but you haven’t made it. You’ve always wanted to (fill in the blank), but you haven’t yet.

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Why? I suspect you haven’t accomplished it because you’re still trying to figure out how to do it. Once you figure out how, you’ll know all the steps, you’ll know how to get it done, you’ll know that you will accomplish it.

How Decide’s Root Word Will Help You Make Decisions

Do you have trouble making decisions? Do you have a bunch of things you want to accomplish but you just never seem to get them done?

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We talked about the fact that you have to decide to accomplish something before you figure out how to do it in this post. With that understanding, let’s look at the word decide.

How You And Michelangelo’s David Are The Same

When they asked Michelangelo how he created his famous statue of David, he answered, “It was easy. I just removed the parts that weren’t David.”

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If you think about it, what Michelangelo was saying was he didn’t create the statue of David. The statue was already there. Michelangelo took the piece of stone and removed all of the parts that weren’t David. David was already there.

A Husband’s Letter To His Wife

To my dearest wife,

We’ve talked a lot about how we are different. It’s one of the many things that adds excitement to our marriage. I love that we are so different because I think it makes us a better team. But there’s one way that I wish we weren’t different. I wish we weren’t different in the way that we both see you.

Husband's Letter To His Wife

I wish you would see you the way I see you. I try to tell you all the time, but my comments typically get brushed off. So, I’m hoping this note will cause you to pause and really take my comments to heart.

Be A Human Being Not A Human Doing

As we are growing up we are taught that we need to do a bunch of “tasks” so that we can have a bunch of “things” and eventually become “someone”.

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For example – You need to go to school, get good grades, get into a great college, so you can get a great paying job. When you get that job, you can buy a big house and fancy cars. Then people will know you have become someone.

Are You Really Who You Think You Are?

I absolutely love sailing. There is nothing like turning the engine off, hearing the sound of the wind in the sails, and being out where you can’t see the shore. It’s an experience that can’t be explained.

But close your eyes and imagine yourself out there. Alone. Imagine that it’s just you sitting on the boat in the middle of the sea. There is no one around. It’s just you. You’re not afraid. You know for certain that you’ll be ok.

Now imagine that you’ve been completely stripped of your roles. You’re not a husband, wife, father, mother, employee, employer, etc. You no longer have any roles. It’s just you.

On a scale of 1-10, and with all of your roles gone, what is your opinion of yourself? Be honest. (No one will know your answer.) What do you think of yourself without your roles?

Before you read any further, answer that question. Be honest with yourself.

Once you answer, click the button below to see the results from the first 100 people that answered that question.

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The correct answer to the question is 10, but most people don’t get it right. The reason you don’t think you are a 10 is because you define yourself by your roles in life. It’s easy to let that happen because so much in life is tied to those roles.

When you define yourself by your roles, what happens when you fail in your roles? You start thinking less of yourself, but in reality your value hasn’t changed. You’re still a 10.

You realize that you’re a 10, right? No matter what you answered, you are a 10. The reason you’re a 10 is because you’re you! You are unique and special in a way that no one else can ever be.

Your identity is a 10. God created you. How can you not be a 10? When you fail in your role, it means you messed up in that specific area, but it doesn’t mean you’re less as a person.

It is a difficult task, but train yourself to not get caught up in defining yourself by the roles you play in life. Define yourself by understanding that you’re a 10.