There is an old theory that if you take all of the world’s money and divide it equally among all people, it won’t take long before there are rich and poor again.
Whether that theory is true or not, it does beg the question, what makes one person excel and another not?
Many people will say it’s luck, opportunites, hard times, etc… That’s fine if they want to think that way, but there are very few, if any, successful people in the world (no matter how you want to define success) that haven’t had to overcome adversity, mental challenges and fears.
Both successful people and unsuccessful people have all kinds of garbage that they carry around and work through continuously.
The difference between the successful person and unsuccessful person is, at the end of the day, the successful person is standing on top of the pile of garbage having conquered it and the unsuccessful person is buried by it. (That analogy came from Dave Ramsey.)
How do you end up on top of the garbage instead of getting buried by it? Here are two suggestions:
- Journal. Stop, think, and identify some of the garbage that keeps you from being your best. Is it certain ways you were taught? Is it things that happened to you? Is it fears that you have? Dig deep and start writing about them. How did they first start getting in your way? How do they continue to get in your way? What happens when they get in your way? Gaining clarity like this will help you recognize these things when they start to hinder you again and it will help you overcome them.
- Focus on the Positive. Many times the biggest thing holding us back from achievement or success is fear of what might go wrong. We get concerned about the negative “what ifs”. What if I fail? What if people don’t like my idea? What if I lose my job? What if I run out of money? Instead, think of the positive. What if you succeed? What if people do like your idea? Focus on all of the positive things that will come from the accomplishment vs. the bad things that might (but almost never do) happen. Note: Journaling through your fears and journaling through the positives are great exercises too.)
What do you do to make sure you end up on top of the trash instead of being buried by it? Share it with us in the comments below!