Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-3 NKJV)
But your default is to judge isn’t it?
- “I can’t believe that guy drives like that. He’s such an idiot.” (I’m guilty!)
- “She’s so stupid for doing that.” (Ever said that about a celebrity?)
- “He shouldn’t raise his kids that way.”
- “Why doesn’t she do something with herself?”
- “Why doesn’t he get it?”
- “How can she think that way?”
- “How can he be so blind to the facts?”
- “Why did she make that decision?”
That list could be pages long, and I’m as guilty as the next person for thinking that way. When we think that way, we are doing two things:
- Judging the person
- Bringing them down to our level to prop ourselves up.
I have a strong suspicion that none of those people woke up and said,
- “Today I’m going to make some really stupid mistakes on the road.”
- “Today I’m going to be stupid.”
- “This is the day that I’m going to close my mind to any new ideas.”
- “Now is the time for me to let myself go so that I look terrible and feel terrible about myself!”
Every person you judge is just like you. We are all broken. We all have issues. We are all doing our best with what we have.
Give people a break. When you’re ready to judge and criticize someone, stop yourself and remember they’re fighting through issues just like you (and me!).
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