Have you ever considered the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics and how it applies to your marriage? Yeah. Me neither.
According to wikipedia, the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics states: (hang with me here)
The entropy of an isolated system never decreases, because isolated systems always evolve toward thermodynamic equilibrium, a state with maximum entropy.
I lost you, didn’t I? That’s ok. I lost me too. Let’s try to put that into normal human being terms.
Here it goes. In all exchanges of energy, if no energy enters or leaves the system, the potential energy of the system will always be less than the initial state.
In other words, if you don’t put any energy into the system, the system will continue to lose potential energy. It will degrade.
Think of an old wind-up watch. When you wind the watch, you add energy to the system, and you store potential energy in the spring. The watch goes about its business of telling time. Eventually the potential energy in the spring starts getting used up.
If nothing is done, the watch starts to slow down and eventually stops working completely. However, if you wind the watch again, the watch continues to work.
That’s the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics at work. Now, think about how that principle works in your marriage and in all relationships in your life.
Just like the watch, if you don’t add any energy to your marriage, your marriage degrades and eventually quits working completely.
Sometimes we let our marriage get to the point where we take our spouse for granted and we don’t put any effort into the relationship.
The marriage starts to suffer and becomes less and less rewarding to both you and your spouse. This perpetuates even less desire to put any time or energy into the relationship.
Eventually, the marriage just dies.
If you want your marriage to last, you have to put energy into it. You have to put time and effort into it.
That concept so simple to understand that everyone would agree. But we don’t always practice that concept, do we?
Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap. Notice when you’re taking your spouse for granted. Notice when you’re not putting any energy into your marriage. Make a change.
Make the effort to spend time with your spouse. Make the effort to speak your spouse’s love language. Put energy into your marriage. Make your marriage a priority. Make it more important than the kids, more important than work, more important than your friends.
Continually tweak your marriage by giving it the energy it needs. When you do, remember that every time you add energy to a system you increase its potential energy. Every time you add energy to your marriage, you increase its potential energy too. Find time this weekend to give energy to your spouse and your marriage. Work that potential.