How Answering Two Questions Could Save Your Marriage – Guest Post at HUSBAND REVOLUTION

We recently wrote a guest post at Husband Revolution. I know many of you have recently subscribed to our blog after reading that post (Thank You!).

For those that haven’t had a chance to read it, here’s a link to the post.

How Answering Two Questions Could Save Your Marriage – HUSBAND REVOLUTION.


 

When You’ve Worn Thin, Then What?

When you’ve worn thin, your world looks different. You don’t see things as clearly. You feel helpless, frustrated and sad. You look around and (though it’s not necessarily true) everyone else is happy. You’re not.

I noticed when talking with my close group of friends that all of us are struggling with something. One friend is questioning her relationship with her husband, another is on the brink of divorce, one is struggling so hard financially, and another is frightened and waiting on the results of a medical procedure. I also work one-on-one with a wife whose husband is fighting an addiction to porn. The attacks come in different areas of our lives.

1 Way to Create a Smooth Morning

Breakfast at our house needs to be two things: fast and healthy. I realize that donuts and toaster pastries are fast, but that’s not the kind of food I want to bank on getting me, Troy or our kids through until lunch.

I experiment with different combinations of smoothies just about daily. But no matter how many I find that are so good, I keep coming back to my old standby. I get asked about this smoothie recipe a lot. I call it the “Chocolate Dream” – and it’s loaded with the kind of food that will help jumpstart anyone’s day.

Spinach
Low in fat and even lower in cholesterol, spinach is high in niacin and zinc, as well as protein, fiber, vitamins A, C, E and K, thiamin, vitamin B6, folate, calcium, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, copper, and manganese. Spinach is loaded with good things for just about every part of your body.

It protects your body from free radicals, particularly in the colon. It’s good for your healthy cardiovascular system, and helps lower high blood pressure. Studies also have shown that spinach helps maintain your vigorous brain function, memory and mental clarity.

Avocado
Avocados are known for helping to fight cardiovascular disease, aid in weight management, diabetes, and have an ability to enhance your body’s absorption of nutrients. They’re also anti-inflammatory and can help protect against liver damage.

A Smooth Move
You can’t go wrong when you fuel your body with these foods and nutrients first thing in the morning. An added bonus is that a smoothie is a gentle wake-up for your digestive system, too.

You know your morning routine? It’s the same thing over and over, right? Switch it up. Try adding this into your routine. Little changes like this make a big difference in your body.  Be intentional about your choices and work toward being #bettertodaythanyesterday .

5 Reasons I Keep My House Clean

To clean or not to clean. Ah. That is the issue that appears on Facebook in the form of memes and quotes almost daily, posted by moms across the world. Do I clean or do I spend time with my kids?

I spend time with my kids every day. I also clean my house every day. I actually don’t mind cleaning. On some days, I would go as far as to say that I actually enjoy it. “How can she do that?” you may ask.

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – The Complete List

The 14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse challenges are complete, but we wanted to follow up with one more post to summarize everything. If you missed a challenge or if you want to go back to a previous challenge, links to the complete list of challenges are below.

#14DaysOfConnecting

The strongest marriages are the ones where the connection is the strongest. So, we put these challenges together to give you some ideas for working on your connection.

  • If you want to create a better marriage, work on your connection.
  • If you have relationship problems, work on your connection.
  • If you want better communication in your marriage, work on your connection.

We hope these 14 days have been helpful to you, and we hope you’re connection has greatly improved. As a matter of fact, do you remember the “For The Overachievers” section of Day 1? If you completed that, you wrote down a few sentences about how your marriage was doing at the time and you answered these questions:

  1. On a scale of 1-10, what is your “connection” level with your spouse today?
  2. On a scale of 1-10, how good are you doing at loving your spouse?
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how good is your spouse doing at loving you?

If you completed that part of the challenge, answer these again and compare them to your answers 14 days ago. Let us know how you did!

If you got something out of these challenges and would like to show your appreciation, would you be willing to help us out?

We’re always interested in knowing how we’re doing and how we can improve. Will you take less than 5 minutes and take this survey? It’s anonymous and it will really help us out. If you fill it out, you’ll get a link at the end of the survey for a printable summary of all of the challenges. (Hurry! Only the first 100 people will be able to fill out the survey.)

Thank you again for participating, and we sincerely hope you will continue to work on building a stronger connection between you and your spouse.

To make things easy to find, here’s a list of all of the challenges:

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 14

This is it, the last challenge of 14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse. And you know we saved the best for last. You’ve probably been expecting this one.

Did you know that happier couples sleep naked? Wait! Don’t click close. I’m serious. Authors Chrisanna Northrup and Pepper Schwartz surveyed almost 100,000 couples and found that the happiest couples sleep in the nude, trust each other, and have sex three to four times a week.

Here’s a Today Show interview with them and here’s their book.

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 13

If we were to take a poll of our readers asking, “What’s the one thing you fight about most?”, I would be willing to bet a lot of money that the top three answers would be: Kids, finances, and sex.

I’ve explained here that those issues, like most issues in a marriage, are not a cause of the couple losing their connection. The issues are symptoms of a poor connection.

14 Days of Connecting With Your Spouse – Day 12

The self-improvement landscape is littered with advice about practicing gratitude. Everyone that talks about self-improvement talks about the need for gratitude, and they should because there are huge benefits.

According to this article, research proves that some of the benefits of gratitude are: